1. Old-School Rule: Brides must wear a long, white gown.
The New Twist: Wear whatever you want. Yes, we know the long white gown is everyone’s dream but you can be different as long as you’re comfortable in it.
The New Twist: Programs should include important info, like who’s in the bridal party and the meaning behind your cultural traditions, but that doesn’t mean you can’t have a bit of fun with the design. Turn your programs into a playful Mad Lib, crossword puzzle with clues about your relationship or even make fortune-tellers with fun facts about your childhood or even something as functional as a fan. Guests will love the idea, and they’ll appreciate having something to do while they wait for the ceremony to start.
The New Twist: I love this idea. Don’t confine your list of VIPs to your female friends (and vice versa for grooms). If your best friend in the world happens to be a guy, make him your bridesman, or a groom can ask his good friend to be a groomswoman (if there’s anything like that). Coordinate their looks with the rest of the party with accessories like a colorful bow tie or sash.
The New Twist: This superstition has long been proven false, so there’s really nothing stopping you if you don’t want to wait until your walk down the aisle to see one another. Schedule a first-look photo shoot (you and your fiancé meet with just the photographer before the ceremony), say some words of prayer together or just do some check ups together.
The New Twist: Let your girls’ individual personalities shine by having each one pick a dress that suits her own taste and figure. The trick to pulling off the mismatched look is to have one cohesive element, like the same fabric, color or length. Or let them personalize their look with accessories, like funky jewelry, boleros or patterned tights, you can also set the limits.
The New Twist: It used to be that guests of the bride sat on the left and guests of the groom on the right. Even now, plenty of your guests will go by this guideline. But if your partner’s family is huge and yours is tiny, your ceremony will look a little weird if most people are seated on one side. If you’re having ushers, ask them to direct your VIPs, grandparents, aunts, uncles and the like to prime seats toward the front of either side and instruct your other guests to sit in any open seat. No ushers? No problem. Place a sign in the area and have it read something like, “Choose a seat, not a side—we’re all family once the knot is tied.”
The New Twist: If you grew up attending worship services and have always dreamed of walking down that aisle, then this is not for you. Otherwise, pick a ceremony venue that’s meaningful to the both of you. It can be anywhere: a park, backyard, an old theater or anywhere you’re comfortable with. Just check with your officiant ahead of time to make sure they’re comfortable with marrying you outside of a religious space, it doesn’t look bad as it sounds… or does it?
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